Political Boundaries

This election cycle highlighted the importance of setting political boundaries. Love, respect, quality of life, equity, prosperity, opportunity, and preservation of hard-won rights were all on the ballot. Black women overwhelmingly understood this and voted accordingly. As the vote totals came in and exit poll data came out it became apparent that white and other voters of color chose hate, greed, racism, oppression, sexual violence, thievery, misinformation, and disrespect. These results were strongly and immediately rebuked by Black women at large and rightfully so. Boundaries were established quickly. The declaration to rest, regroup, strategize, and support Black women with intention was loud. The decision to step away from fake allyships and no longer show up and do the heavy lifting in movements pissed off many.

I heard loud and clear that Black women were setting their political boundaries and hanging up their capes. In 24-48 hours, Black women did the following:

Became more self-aware:

• Understood their values, needs, and limits.
• Reflected on past experiences and identified patterns where boundaries were crossed.

Learned to say “no”:

• Realized that saying “no” is a valid response and doesn’t require justification.
• Prioritized their commitments and learned to not overextend themselves.

Practiced self-compassion:

• Understood that setting boundaries is a healthy and necessary aspect of self-care.
• Avoided self-blame or guilt when asserting their needs.

I love all of this for us. My hope is that this is the energy we are forever on without apology.